(12-01-2015, 12:54 PM)Lisa Wrote:
(12-01-2015, 12:46 PM)Loki Wrote:
(12-01-2015, 12:25 PM)Lisa Wrote:
(12-01-2015, 12:23 PM)Loki Wrote: Do you mean specifically promiscuity or just any sexual interactions or intercourse before marriage? I wouldn't necessarily encourage anyone to be promiscuous, but I participate in and encourage pre-marital sex between dedicated and responsible adults. The idea of potentially being very incompatible with my SO sexually once we get married (assuming I end up "marrying") has always bothered me. Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, but it's pretty fundamental.
You aren't going to get married?
I might, mostly depends on my SO I guess. I have no real interest in it myself, but if she wants to do something that's fine. I mean I hear the tax benefits are nice but beyond that I've never felt I needed a ceremony to dedicate myself to someone and I have no religious reasons for wanting such a thing. Ultimately it's all a huge waste of money even if it's a small wedding. If it came to it I'd prefer a small shindig at someone's house right before we take a trip across Europe together or something.
The small shindig and a trip across Europe sounds nice. Are you going to be like Goldie hawn and Kurt Russell? Only now I guess they want to get married after saying they didn't need to.
I didn't realize Goldie Hawn was still alive
But I guess so, though I'm not terribly familiar with their personal life. I imagine if my SO and I aren't married by the time we have kids we'd look into getting the paperwork done at least for the taxes and also other things like inheritance, hospital visits, kind of things. I'm not all that versed in all the legal perks because I don't often think about marriage haha.
@Baron, no not at all. I think you misinterpreted what I said. I think it's important to be compatible with your SO sexually, and you can't know if that is the case if you wait until marriage to find out. And that sort of thing may not be important to some people, but it is to me so that's how I feel.
I don't believe I in any way insinuated that men should "practice" with other women before marrying. I specifically said "pre-marital sex between dedicated and responsible adults" which would insinuate you are in a romantic relationship with a person before you have sex with them. When I think of promiscuity I think of going to a bar and hooking up for the night or sleeping with half of your high school or most of your college dorm. But I don't consider sleeping with your girlfriend of 5 months to be promiscuous even though it isn't within marriage.
For the record though, as long as both parties are adults and consent to the sex I don't particularly care what other people do in the privacy of their homes or how long they have known each other. I would just encourage them to be very safe and careful with their sex.
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